Friendship Portals and True Friends

I was bit lazy today....did not write anything to blog here....so just posting something which I wrote for another blog of mine which is part of Friendster, a friendship portal.

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Recently, one of my friends here posted a message saying something like this : ‘it is very difficult to find a true friend here, in Friendster so be careful’ etc etc

For a moment I thought about it. Did I get a true friend from here? I asked myself….not once but many times….all the time, I got answers like ‘ may be’ , ‘ I don’t know’ etc……but the result of my mind-brain co-ordination hesitated to give the output ‘Yes’, with confidence…..

But does it mean that I agree with that friend of mine? Nope. Because I have studied this place. People join this portal to fulfill different requirements. Though it has a global color, its sort of a Pinoy portal, at least as on today.

Most of them are here to have a ‘virtual get together’. They are looking for their old classmates or old buddies. For such people, this portal is not a disappointing one, that too if one is a Filipina.

Some are here looking for friends (just friends, true friends, time pass ones etc etc).

Those who are here for time pass, they get thousands of friends, that too if you are a good looking female. For many, one or two account itself is not enough. They keep on adding and some of them even keep them in ‘show case’…

If anybody is after just friends, they might also get many friends here, not that difficult.

But if somebody here is looking for a true friend, well, they might get, I am not sure, but it takes time. And it all depends on one’s perception about what a ‘true friend’ is. A good friend of yours can turn into your life partner, but basically, that is not what friendship is all about.

In a real friendship world, it is easy to make out who is close to whom, among our friends circle. But here it is not possible. One can easily get disappointed, after sometime, when one realizes certain ‘realities’.

Those who are here for flirting, they too might get their targets, am not sure, since there are better places for such people.

There are some others who are looking for a ‘relationship’. They better be careful to avoid frustration.

World over, people ends many relationships even after ‘knowing each other’ for many years, personally. Boy friend after boy friend, girl friend after girl friend, divorces after divorce - even after finding their ‘soul mate’…So, if such is the case with the real world, even after knowing people in person for many years, hanging around with them for many years, getting enough chance to understand how the other one reacts or behaves to many situations and ending up in break ups after years, how safe or real is this virtual world? It is a limitation which can be addressed with common sense (there is a saying that common sense is a sense which is absent in common man!!).

In this virtual friendship world, for many of them, it is just a head-hand coordination work, without involving heart. They type many things without any emotional content. And there are also people who play with other people’s emotions. Here the person who is at the receiving end gets hurt (usually the weak minded ones/soft types).

So, take a moment, and come out of it and look at it…..isn’t a funny place? A big family of millions of people from (almost) all over the world, smiling, crying, praying, hurting (getting hurt), cheating (getting cheated), helping (getting helped), advising (getting advised), using scripts for doing good things (and using it to damage), being a culprit (being a victim)…………… remember that it is a cross section of the world and society and hence you meet all kinds of people here, not just goody goody ones.

If you are emotionally depending somebody here, well, its all up to you and your mental strength…

But anyway I am happy to be part of this BIG family and looking forward to meet many wonderful people here.